In love with “Peony”? Not so much

Back in the 90’s I saw a movie called Truly Madly Deeply, which starred a pre-Professor Snape Alan Rickman as the main female character’s boyfriend. The bad news: the boyfriend died. The good news: the boyfriend returned! The really bad news: the dead boyfriend brought along all of his sad, cold, bored, dead buddies, who just wanted to hang out in the girlfriend’s apartment watching videos.

Except in soap operas and perhaps on Lost, when it comes to dead characters, even if they return as ghosts, you know that they’re pretty much still dead and, slacker ghost buddies or not, that they are not good candidates for long term relationships. Lisa See’s book Peony in Love covers the subject of ghost love against the backdrop of seventeenth century China, and, let me tell you, when it comes to life or death in the environment See portrays, I’m thinking that, given a choice, life and death come out in a (pardon me here) dead heat.

I’ll try not to spoil the story too much, but on the side of life, you’ve got women’s not-so-nice lot, in the form of foot binding, restriction of movement, segregation from men, arranged marriage, the overvaluing of male children and devaluing of female, rampant anorexia, ridiculously oppressive superstition about absolutely everything, and even the expectation that suicide beats the soiling and shame associated with rape. On the death side, you’ve got eternal wandering, eternal hunger, dependence on the neglectful living for a proper place in the afterlife, continuing competition and jealousies with the rest of the dead, and the very romantic practice of ghost marriage with a straw dummy as the stand-in for the already dead bride (lovely!).

In the book, See is giving us a picture of a culture otherwise unfamiliar to us Westerners. I get that. What I don’t get is why See, in an otherwise incredibly inventive story, continually returns to the themes of female infighting, oppression against women perpetrated by other women, and romantic love as so over-arching and women so prone to lovesickness, that being in love could be a lifetime obsession or a deadly proposition. She throws some bones to women, but they’re not enough to make us readers feel like she wants us to do more than just contextualize the practices she’s described and, in doing so, dismiss our repulsion of them.

In an interview about the novel, she says, “My point here is that other countries and cultures have different belief systems. One isn’t right and the other wrong…” Institutionalized sexism and racism are still wrong, no matter what a culture’s beliefs may be. The character of Peony in Peony In Love grew in a lot of ways over the course of the novel, but, for me, she fell somewhat short of that realization.

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6 Comments

  1. Amy said,

    January 13, 2010 at 12:03 am

    I just pray that my family will remember to dot my tablet when I perish! Enjoy book club on Friday. I’ll miss seeing everyone….Amy

    • Cheryl said,

      January 13, 2010 at 8:37 am

      At minimum I’ll hope they don’t stuff your tablet in a dummy and forget about it. Who knew the afterlife was so tricky?

      We’ll miss you too!

      Hey, can we talk/correspond sometime about Boy Scouts?

      -C

  2. Andie said,

    January 13, 2010 at 12:19 pm

    Love Alan, hating the book already–see how little information I need to make an informed judgment…

  3. Monica said,

    January 13, 2010 at 12:46 pm

    I actually enjoyed the book. 🙂 I think if you just look at it as a historical piece it works. I found it quite fascinating and had a hard time putting it down. Looking forward to discussing it more on Friday.

  4. Cheryl said,

    January 13, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    That’s the beauty of book club, isn’t it? Different reactions from different people. I came down on a very different side than the rest of the book club on See’s other book, Snowflower and the Secret Fan. They loved it, but I couldn’t get past the problematic cultural issues and See’s portrayal of them. To each her own opinion, right? I’ll look forward to hearing more of what you have to say about it!

    Take care!


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